My husband and I have been struggling with some hip and back issues, respectively. In a conversation last Saturday with our older son, he mentioned “dropping by” that afternoon. I cautioned that the house he might find wouldn’t be the house kept the way he remembers when living at home. Instantly, we were offered help from son and his wife today to “help” us get caught up on things inside and out. BAM! That hit us both hard — we interpreted it as a statement on our aging (we’re 74 and 65!). We’ve struggled this week about what to let them do as we all know that no one does things the way we do ourselves.
A friend pointed out that they are trying to do the only thing they can and know to do. Our medical issues are beyond their control and assistance, so they are looking for a way to ease the burdens in our lives. She is most likely correct. We’ve prayed for God to shower us with gracious thoughts and attitudes today as we don’t want to have hurt feelings among family, and we want to honor our son and daughter-in-law’s caring nature.
Our plan is to take them to lunch so that we can at least have some time of sharing about our recent days and weeks, and also to spend time with our son who travels out of town quite a bit in his job. The reality is we don’t see them often even though we live in the same town, so beyond the help offered this is a chance to spend quality time together.
Father, I ask that you watch over our thoughts, words and deeds today that we will honor Craig and Gigi and their caring for us. Give us quality time together and sharing around the table not only sustenance for our bodies but for our souls. Amen.
Q4U: What similar experiences have you had and how did you handle them?