God can pour on the blessings in astonishing ways
so that you’re ready for anything and everything,
more than just ready to do what needs to be done.
2 Corinthians 9:8 (MSG)
Last Saturday we drove to visit my husband’s brother, who resides in a nursing facility in Yakima, WA. Fortunately, when his wife could no longer care for him at home, a compassionate and caring place was found for him.
However, he doesn’t know where he is or who we are, but we visit because this is our calling now. We go to support his wife, who is so faithfully doing all she can to connect.
One way she uses to connect is to feed him at all three meals each day. So, we decided to immerse ourselves in the pattern of her days. At each mealtime, we accompanied her and assisted in feeding him. During these three days, he was amazingly belligerent and agitated about eating.
It is hard to see him only able to eat pureed food like you’d feed to a baby.
Most of the time his eyes are closed, and for the most part, he is unresponsive. But we came away with a fuller understanding of his wife’s days and just what she means when she says mealtime is their best time together.
If he opens his eyes, you know you’ve possibly connected. If he grumbles or mumbles, another signal of possible connection. If he fights you, you’re aware that he is frustrated because he can’t tell you what he’d like you to know.
One evening my husband turned to me and said, “It’s been a real blessing feeding Jim. I feel as if I’ve done something to help but also to let him know I truly care and love him.”
Although hard to watch my husband feeding his older brother, it truly was a rich blessing for all of us.
Thank you, Father, for bittersweet blessings.
Linking up with Joan today at Grace Cafe